Tinley Park mom leaves child in car — endangerment?

I don’t care if you leave your child for a f****** SECOND! Abandonment and neglect has no time constraints. All it TAKES is a second for a child to be abducted. IN FACT, parents get a false sense of security when they briefly leave their child unattended. To the “American Dad” who says this woman at Wal-Mart’s rights as a “parent and an American” were violated: You OBVIOUSLY have NEVER had to deal with the horrors of child abduction. The officer who charged the f****** b**** with child endangerment: Thank you for doing your job. I too had the honor of being a police officer for 8 years, but it SICKENED me to see how many children are abducted, raped, tortured, and “sacraficed” and murdered. “American Dad” obviously thinks stuff like this doesn’t happen. No, don’t worry about your child being kidnapped if you turn your back for a second.Especially if you are in the loading zone at Wal-Mart. It’s ok, your child will be safe. BULL-SHIT!!! HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO SAY IT?? IT ONLY TAKES A SECOND!! IT HAPPENS TO ANY CHILD, ANY PARENT, ANY FAMILY, ANYTIME, ANY HOUR, AND ANYPLACE BY ANYBODY!!!Sometimes, kidnappers work in teams to distract a parent. Sure, parents allow their children to walk to school or play outside with friends. Does this mean they are guilty of “child endangerment” Are parents supposed to be at their children’s side every second of every day? If you are a true parent who knows the reality, you would TRY your DAMNEST! It’s called supervision and educating children and being smart!!! Sure, let your children socialize with their friends. In the middle of nowhere? No, I don’t think so? With family and friends and and environment you are very familiar with, yes. There are crazy, dangerous people everywhere, if adults can be victimized, so can children, obviously. Is it smart to allow a 7 year old to walk home at night? These days it is not even safe for an ADULT to be alone in BROAD DAYLIGHT.
Is it smart to let children walk to school? Not if I can help it. And sure, as I’ve said before, a kidnapping needs no special set of circumstances, but obviously a kidnapper is going to look for the easiest, most convienent way. Like Elizabeth Smart. Kidnapped in her own home!The parents did absolutely nothing wrong whatsoever. It was a horrible crime that happened. Yet the perpetrator knew the family first. Waited for the opportune time, in the middle of the night, with a weapon. Why didn’t he snatch the little girl while she was out with a group of friends? Then there was the other little girl, caught on video being approached and dragged away by a man. She was alone. The MANY children who are yanked off their bikes and thrown into a car, often these children are by themselves, or only 1-2 people around. In other words, NO PARENT SHOULD ALLOW OPPORTUNITIES FOR KIDNAPPING IF THEY CAN HELP IT. You HAVE to be paranoid. You have to assume what can and may happen. All it takes is a second. I can’t say it enough. I don’t even leave my DOG in the car for a second!!

Samara, just curious… do you even have kids? I’m sorry for your loss if you have had or know someone whose child has been abducted. Do you stay awake and watch them while they sleep? What do you do when they’re at school recess? At a friends house? Are you RIGHT THERE? You are one stressed out, paranoid, swearing individual! It’s no wonder… you live in fear.

So by your parenting standards, we should strap up our kids and put them in an empty room and lock the doors? what kind of life are you living? What kind of life are your kids living?

What this mother did was nothing more or less than getting out of the car to fill it with gas. What this police officer did was wrong. The mother was within eyesight while she and her other kids were donating to Salvation Army. THAT Samara, is reponsible parenting. Leaving a sleeping toddler in a warm, locked, alarmed car was a safer environment than waking her up and exposing her to the elements. It only takes a SECOND to slip and fall and crack her childs head open!

I hope this woman wins this ridiculous waste of tax payers money.

This woman is my friend. She is an outstanding mother and is guilty of letting her baby sleep. She let the older kids have a great time being generous even though her 2 year old was sleepy. Which is more important, protecting the toddler from the almost impossible risk of carjacking (in that location, with her watching), or the chance to spontaneously do something great? If it were a Mastercard ad, it would be something like: “Cost of gas $2.05, digital photo prints: $1.25. Teaching the kids it’s ok to occasionally drop everything to go be generous? Priceless.”

The former officer who wrote above has clearly seen hideous mistreatment of children. People can be horrible. Treffly is NOT horrible. Parenting is all about weighing risks. In this case, the risk was almost not there. The results of having a child who’d lost 20 minutes of sleep were far greater.

Oh yeah. I bet the older kids who were “in protective custody” - just sitting at a Walmart are going to have a very hard time trusting police for quite some time. What damage will that cause?

I’m torn on this particular story. I think the mother should have been cited, but not had the baby taken from her. I have, on rare occasions, left my two in our car (in our driveway) as I ran back into the house for just a second to grab a sippy-cup or graham crackers for the road trip ahead. And the few times that I’ve done it, I’ve felt like an awful mother. But my children have never been more than a few feet away (our driveway is only about 5 feet from the front door). At the same time, I too have seen many stories where parents have left their children for “just a second” as I have, and horrible things have happened. I think the history of the parent should determine whether or not drastic action is taken. Has this mother ever done anything sub-par in her parenting before? Has she been proven to be neglectful or abusive? If not, thank God nothing happened, and chalk it up to a frightening learning experience. Then again, society has drastically changed in the last 15-20 years. The only question I have about this whole incident is WHY did they need to go drop money off for the Salvation Army? Those guys are around all the time, it couldn’t have possibly waited until the next day?

Wow, samara is kind of crazy isn’t she?
Anyway, Crestwood reaction is way out of bounds.
Hello free college education for the young snapper.
We all have had run-ins with dimwit officers (most are exceptional, outstanding and brave).
Will enjoy this particular officer twisting in the breeze. I’m guessing there is a pattern here with this guy.

Samara, you obviously dont have any children. And you know if you get of the drugs your taking you might see that you what you wrote is stupid!!!!!!!!!!!! “it ok to let your kids play outside” but not ok to do what Mrs.Coyne did?
REMEMBER she set the alarm and LOCKED the doors and walked 30 feet away and keep the car in view ! Mrs.Coyne Didnt leave her Daughter in a stroller in the middle of the parking lot where some could get the child!!!!!

Crack will make you paranoid. GET OFF OF IT “BITCH”

Mrs.Coyne did nothing 3/4 of the moms in the US have done,
but liberal idiots like you are screwing up this country! stay at home and live in a steel box!

Sometimes I feel I’m living in a box. This is the first I’ve heard of this story and I’m absolutely outraged. There was more child endangerment caused by two of this woman’s older children seeing their mom get arrested. How absolutely traumatic that must have been for them. Another over zealous police officer who needs to take a vacation or find another line of work. My thoughts are with this poor mother. I don’t know her but I’m sure she’s a great mother teaching her children the importance of charity. I feel very very sorry that she and her family have been caught in this terrible mess that should never have happened. Lastly, Samara, you need a good therapist and I’m not trying to be cruel. Seek help today.

This is worrisome on many levels. The fact that some believe we are all supposed to live in constant fear of ’something only taking a second’ is an incredibly destructive mindset. the psycology of constantly looking over your shoulder in fear of both ‘abductors’ and our ‘protectors’ who will arrest you immediately at the first instant of any percieved, never mind actual, neglect or abuse is verging on the pathological. I for one refuse to go through life in this destructive cycle because there is no end to it. This woman did nothing wrong, period. Thee is no disseminating this fact with saying “well, she should not do that, but she should not be jailed either”. She did nothing wrong, and that is clear, it is common sense. The police officer overstepped her bounds, by a long way. Police have boundaries, just as we all do. We trust their good judgement, but we trust it is done within the rule of law. Unfortunately, we have moved from the rule of law, to the law of rules. It is virtually impossible to live a single day in this country without breaking a law both intentionally or unintentionally. By the ideology that we cannot endanger anyone at any time with any action in any miniscule way, we should all be arrested immediately, as this is realistically not possible. Justice in this case would be the judge throwing this case out of his court, with predjudice, and charging the municipality for the court costs and an admonishment to the particular police officer and her department to not bring such drivel into his court room ever again. He should one step further and see if the DA might want to open an investigation into whether the police violated this womans constitutional rights, either federal or state.

Now, onto the real issue here. I 100% support Mrs. Coyne and I’m sure she’s a great mother. This actually happened me to. (Samara, hold on, this will shock and horrify you!). I left my 2 year old in my locked and alarmed Tahoe while I stood by the door of my son’s school watching him walk into his class and watching the truck at the same time. The next thing I knew I had a woman screaming at me, standing behind my truck so I couldn’t leave unless I ran her over (Hmmm, it did cross my mind) and calling 911. 5 minutes later 2 deputy sheriff’s and 2 state troopers arrived and when they saw what actually happened they laughed, wished me a great day and drove off. Wish it was the same for Treffly….

As a mom of two children, 7 & 11, I think that the police office was out of line. I can’t even consider that “leaving” children, if you are right there with your eye on the car all the time. If the child was awake and upset, then it would be wrong. The child was safe, comfortable and attended to. Obviously, this woman was a diligent mother.

This Samara nut is looking to sensationalize this story. Obviously, she had some issues (still does). Lots of cursing, that’s abusive…. I agree she should get some professional help.