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The Ultimate Rugrat Reprieve |
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Will our kids be the ones hitting and biting and misbehaving? Or, even worse, sitting alone ostracized on the playground? Part of enjoying parenting (aside from regularly scheduled mommy/daddy time-outs and vacations), centers on the ability to strike the right balance between concern for how our kid looks to others and not giving a damn. Our kids, blessed little rotten tiring creatures, all have various challenges and gifts. Some truly are greater than others. To say something as simple as, “accept your child and his/her foibles and you’ll be a happier parent,” is as overly simplistic as it is facile. Not that we should accept hitting and biting or rudeness or yelling around adult-spaces such as restaurants without civilizing the wee brutes. But in that core way, accepting that these darlings and their weird behaviors are inimitably themselves. That try as we might to change their proclivities and personality traits, we’re merely postponing the inevitable day when they’ll come to us and proclaim their uniqueness and we’ll stand there making a decision to either love them as they are or move on. Isn’t the ultimate rugrat reprieve finding that inner relaxed state where their tendencies (which in my house include grabbing things that oughtn’t be grabbed in front of grandma, tantrums, hitting, and generally bad tempers), are accepted as part of how things go with young kids? Not that we don’t rightly try to correct (if you need to grab yourself, please do so in the bathroom), but that we realize on some level that all is as it should be. Kids have phases, just like adults. Some pass, some don’t. If we can let go a little and take a deep breath, perhaps parenting won’t seem so tiring after all. But how do we get there (rested, zen) from here (harried, resentful)? Well, if we’re inclined to follow the advice of Mominatrix, there are several enjoyable and free (hopefully) ways to cast off daily stress. Or you can drink too much… But it doesn’t have to be as complicated as rumpled sheets and hangovers. It can be simply sitting and watching them and breathing. Sitting and seeing them for a minute for who they are (smelly, badly behaving, beautiful). Stillness and observation can be our best tools for relaxed and happy parenting. | ||
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