I'm a Mominatrix

If you're wondering what it takes to be a Mominatrix, check out our "I'm a Mominatrix" interviews with some of the hottest moms on the internet who were willing to share the secret to their sex-cess. Apparently you don't need to be a leather wearing, whip carrying maven to be a Mominatrix, after all. These ladies have their own special ways of making sure their libidos know whose boss.

Featured Mominatrix: Joanne Bamberger

Joanne Bamberger is a recovering attorney, politically progressive mom and political analyst living in the shadow of the nation’s capital better known around the blogosphere as PunditMom! A new media expert and authority on political involvement of women and mothers, Joanne is a regular contributor to The Huffington Post and her political commentary has appeared on CNN and Fox News, among others. Joanne is a frequent speaker on the growing influence of mothers in the political world and online community building. Her book about the same, Mothers of Intention, is scheduled to be published this fall. Don't tell anyone, but she's also in denial about the impact peri-menopause is having on her life!

What makes you a "Mominatrix?"

I guess what makes me a Mominatrix is that I'm at a point in my life where I don't feel uncomfortable anymore telling my husband what is "good" for me in the bedroom.  I think many of us are hesitant about that at one stage of our lives or another.  It's pretty liberating to know that it's OK with your partner to say what works and what doesn't!
How do you feel about the term "MILF?"

I've never really liked the term.  My gut reaction has always been that it's something of a term of disrespect.  I know it's unwieldy but how about MILTWASOHFWHR (Mother I'd Like to Woo and Sweep Off Her Feet with Hot Romance!)  ;)
How has "sexy" changed since you've become a mother?

Unfortunately, as the mother of a ten-year-old, my sexy has pretty much gone out the window.  I think I was still holding on in the early years, but as she's gotten older and in certain ways demands more of my mental energy, (and doesn't take naps anymore) I find little room for sexy in my life.  Although, a great pair of stilettos can bring a little sexy back for me!
How has motherhood affected your sex life?

Initially, When PunditGirl came along, our sex life was still pretty good.  Her naps on the weekends were godsends to our sex life. Sure we have time now when she has a playdate at someone else's house or has a sleepover, but I hate the feeling of 'this is the only time we have, so we'd better do it now.'  So not sexy.
What's a simple sexy tip (or tips) that you can share with other moms?

I am trying to find ways to think about being sexy and hope that the simple act of thinking about it will help bring back a little action in our love lives.  It's been tough, especially with so many other demands, but I'm trying hard and trying to use the Mominatrix as my role model!
Your sexiest body part?

Wow. I wish I felt like I had one.  Part of the problem for me in terms of how I feel about my body has been some weight gain from the onset of peri-menopause.  But I guess if I had to choose one part of my body, I would say my breasts.  Since PunditGirl is adopted and I didn't have the opportunity to breastfeed, they're still in pretty good shape!
What accessory or piece of clothing makes you feel the sexiest?

Not to be a cliche, but I do find that something new and sexy in the lingerie department makes me feel sexy, especially if I wear it on a "typical" day when I don't anticipate anything in the bedroom.  Wearing something a little nicer than the usual "mom" underwear does help remind me that I'm not just a mom, I'm still a woman and that, hopefully, there's some hope to finding the sexy again!
Any special tricks (ahem)?

If I told, they wouldn’t be special anymore!  ;)

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