I'm a Mominatrix

If you're wondering what it takes to be a Mominatrix, check out our "I'm a Mominatrix" interviews with some of the hottest moms on the internet who were willing to share the secret to their sex-cess. Apparently you don't need to be a leather wearing, whip carrying maven to be a Mominatrix, after all. These ladies have their own special ways of making sure their libidos know whose boss.

Featured Mominatrix: Piper

Piper is the mother of two active, precocious, sometimes-exhausting boys (10, 8) and has been parenting as a single mother for almost four years. She may or may not be middle aged, depending on one's expectation for life expectancy. She drinks far too much wine and gets far too little sex, at least with others. When she's not parenting, she's a professional (the legal kind), the CEO of a newly formed start-up business, and is feeding her life-long dream of being a writer through her blog, Mommy is Dating. When Piper grows up, she wants to be a muse.

What makes you a "Mominatrix?"

Hmmm. Trick question? No one's a Mominatrix like THE Mominatrix. If a Mominatrix is a mother who's sexually alive, then what makes me a Mominatrix is my honest and authentic interest in passionate, intimate sex. Anyone can fuck. And while that's interesting too sometimes, I'm more interested in sex that includes head, heart AND hard-on.

How do you feel about the term "MILF?"

I aspire to be one! Seriously, what bothers me about the term is that it implies mothers aren't worthy of sexual attention, or that once we become mothers we lose our hotness, our sex appeal. I feel strongly that motherhood isn't what causes women to lose sex appeal, but our tendencies to put everyone else ahead of us and sacrifice ourselves in the process. Essentially, we often deny ourselves our sex appeal.

How has "sexy" changed since you've become a mother?

My body is completely different than it was before I had children, so I've had to learn to embrace the changes and perhaps even re-direct my focus. But I think age has affected my definition of "sexy" more than motherhood. Most of my sexy comes from my attitude. I'm a whole lot more confident and aware of myself than I was when I was younger, and in my experience, men are attracted to women who exude confidence in their sexuality. I've learned that "sexy" derives more from knowing how to use your body to experience and give pleasure than what your body looks like. That said, I'd still like my sexy stomach back.

How has motherhood affected your sex life?

What sex life? Really, I'm a single mother. I have two boys who aren't yet quite old enough for me to leave home alone. And if I could leave them home alone, I'm not sure they wouldn't kill each other. Add to that the fact that there seems to be a dearth of single, age-appropriate men here, and, well, "sex life" is a bit of a stretch. My sex life consists of Friday mornings (almost always child-free) and Roberrrrrto (long and Latin for BOB).

What's a simple sexy tip (or tips) that you can share with other moms?

Take care of yourself. And by "take care of yourself," I mean continue with the personal grooming habits that resulted in getting you knocked up in the first place. It's tempting to stop shaving, quit exercising, stop seeing the hairstylist, hang out in baggy sweats all the time. I don't mean you have to be perfectly coiffed and made up every second of every day. But if you spend a good portion of your time in a state that you wouldn't take out in public, then give yourself more attention. If you feel sexy, you are sexy. And you'll feel a whole lot sexier if you don't "let yourself go."

Your sexiest body part?

Probably my eyes. I'm very communicative with my eyes, and I have a come-hither look that can bring a man to his knees (i.e. right where I want him). My cleavage is pretty damn sexy, too. It's bountiful and extraordinarily feminine.

What accessory or piece of clothing makes you feel the sexiest?

Does perfume count as an accessory? Perfume makes me feel pretty, feminine, alluring. But it has to be subtle, and it can't be cheap, otherwise you run the risk of smelling like a $5 hooker. Shoes can do it for me, too. Boots especially make me feel sexy in a "just try to take me on" kind of way. And I never underestimate the pick-me-up power of a well-fitting, sexy bra. It makes me feel like I have a little secret that, if he's lucky, I might just share with him.

Any special tricks (ahem)?

DO be selfish. By selfish, I don't mean nonreciprocal, I mean insistant on receiving the proper attention. You'll both enjoy sex more.


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