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Petulant Pixie
Queen of Imperfection
Joined: 22 Apr 2002
Posts: 4140
Location: flyover country
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| also did natural childbirth…not because I think I was being a better parent then someone who chose other options…I was scared as hell of the idea of them putting a catheter in my back! |
That was my approach with #1, too. I thought that if I ever got to be in so much pain where the idea of someone putting a needle into my spinal column sounded like a good thing, then I'd roll with that.
I never got to that point, but sadly, they did it anyway, since the cord prolapsed and I was wheeled in for an emergency c-section 
Then I ended up having two more c-sections (breech and transverse babies, although I had already chosen a repeat c before baby#2 turned breech) and the worst part of both of those c-sections was the epidural/spinal.
I really would have liked a natural childbirth, but it wasn't in my cards. |
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Stacey S
Seen Better Days
Joined: 12 Apr 2008
Posts: 368
Location: New England
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Well I certainly would never even attempt to speak for anyone other then myself...but I REALLY did not enjoy my experience...I was in SO much pain for SO long I couldn't even appreciate what was going on.
For me it isn't the birthing experience that matters as much as the end result! |
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kristin
Slightly Flawed
Joined: 17 Jul 2008
Posts: 8
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Jessica has now reprimaned me both on this forum and in a private message, which accused me of spamming bc I, having never done this before, and yes, being imperfect, accidently posted it twice. I agree that how one chooses to give birth is up to them, but this was a "call for public opinion pole" and I was giving MY OWN PERSONAL OPINION, BASED ON MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. Not once did I judge the decisions of others.
I don't care how imperfect a parent you are Jessica, one thing you should not let fall through your parenting cracks is your ability to hear opinions other than your own, and to forgive people and understand when they make mistakes. Yes, now I am judging, but you asked for it, twice.
This site is not called the uptight parent. |
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momof3_MOD
Moderator
Joined: 12 Apr 2008
Posts: 906
Location: Nunya Business, MO
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| Posted: Sun Jul 20, 2008 8:39 pm Post subject: |
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WOW Kristin! You totally have a right to your feelings but please know that Jessica doesnt call ppl out just b/c of their POVs. You are new here and Jessica, Im sure, was just pointing out some rules that you might not have known about and asking you nicely to not post a link more than once on multiple forums. Accidentally posting something twice is understandable but doing it when its word for word (like hitting copy and paste) isnt. She isnt making you leave but is rather just letting you know what is acceptable and what isnt. It has nothing to do with POVs.
Jessica is not mean at all! She lets lots of things slide. She is very open to hearing others POVs and such but when you come on here and say anything you have to be ready for others to not always agree with you.
Im sure if you stick around you will meet lots of nice ladies and have fun. |
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Jessica
Queen of Imperfection
Joined: 20 Apr 2002
Posts: 4760
Location: Chi-town
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| Posted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 7:35 am Post subject: |
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| kristin wrote: |
Jessica has now reprimaned me both on this forum and in a private message, which accused me of spamming bc I, having never done this before, and yes, being imperfect, accidently posted it twice. I agree that how one chooses to give birth is up to them, but this was a "call for public opinion pole" and I was giving MY OWN PERSONAL OPINION, BASED ON MY OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. Not once did I judge the decisions of others.
I don't care how imperfect a parent you are Jessica, one thing you should not let fall through your parenting cracks is your ability to hear opinions other than your own, and to forgive people and understand when they make mistakes. Yes, now I am judging, but you asked for it, twice.
This site is not called the uptight parent. |
Yes, when people come here for the sole purpose of promoting another site, I do tend to get a little uptight. It's not as if you built up a relationship with this community and then shared this information. I could have let it go once, but when you simply copied and pasted the same post (as momof3_MOD pointed out)in another forum with a link to a site you write for (and are trying to promote), then the least you can do is buy display advertising and do it on the up'n'up. If that was done my accident, then I accept your apology.
Secondly, this poll is under the DEBATE forum. An exchange of ideas is promoted and encouraged, but you cannot expect everyone to agree with you just as I wouldn't expect everyone to agree with me. I disagreed with you, on a DEBATE forum, which one is apt to do - again, on a debate forum.
I guess I'm a little irritated that you haven't bothered to read this site before you decided to link to your article and expect no disagreement. If you had bothered, you would likely
appreciate/understand that we appreciate just how difficult it is to make the right choices on an individual, unique basis with very little expectations as what women and mothers are supposed to or expected to do within the context of how their bodies were designed.
Many woman here even formula fed!
Of course, you are welcome to hold any belief and state it here, my point is that you can't expect to do that on The Imperfect Parent, promote a natural birthing article you wrote on another site and not expect to get opposing opinions.
I'm hoping that we'll just get past this. Some of my favorite people I've met in cyberspace have been those with polar opposite POV's and we respect and love each other for it.
momof3_MOD, thank you for your support.  |
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MainstreamMom
Certifiably Imperfect
Joined: 29 Apr 2002
Posts: 1222
Location: New England
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Many woman here even formula fed!
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Oh the HORROR!!!!!!!!  |
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kristin
Slightly Flawed
Joined: 17 Jul 2008
Posts: 8
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Ok Jessica, we can move on. But let's be clear, it wasn't your opinion to my article that bothered me, it was your telling me that I don't belong here because "this is the Imperfect parent site and not the perfect natural mother site" which is what you determined I was suggesting because I had successful natural childbirths.
I don't think linking a valid site to a valid topic is "promoting" another site, and if it is, so what? The site i linked to is merely a writing forum.
Anyway, nothing like making a newbie feel unwelcomed. Thanks for the welcome wagon.
Moving on. |
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marybeth+willsMommy
Slightly Flawed
Joined: 17 Jun 2008
Posts: 79
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| I agree with you Stacey. Both of mine were c-sections (my first was breech so I had no choice) my 2nd was really no choice either b/c my OB's office pretty much refuses to do VBACs and I get SOOO sick of hearing from women who did vag birth telling me I pussed out and didn't have "real" childbirth and go through "real pains". Well lemme tell you, the pain you feel for days/weeks afterwards and not being able to pick up your toddler or newborn for a week or more is agonizing. Like Stacey said- we are all Moms now- who cares how it happened. Let's stick together ladies!!! |
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