The Imperfect Community

[Stacey S]

Okay…as many of you know or perhaps have figured out…I’m not a religious person…AT ALL…I have even been known to sit on the fence about the whole Jesus thing…HOWEVER...IF there is a God….then he has made EVERY child, regardless HOW that child was conceived he or she would not be here if it wasn’t God’s intention.
Mean people SUCK!

[Jessica]

Well I used a very non-invasive fertility medication. I only had to take pills and it only increased my likelihood of having twins slightly. I have to say, if they told me the pills would create a very real possibility that I would have a litter, I'm not sure I could have done it. I wouldn't want to be in that position and I don't have the patience to raise that many children.

In Jon and Kate's case, it was their choice and a calculated "risk" they were okay with. It's their decision to make and their right to assume such a "risk".

As far as being God's plan, I'm not going to touch that with a 10 foot pole!

[alana]

After I had my first child at 19, my doctor decided for methat an I.U.D. would be "in my best interest". I was married at the time, 35 yrs. ago when "unwed" mothers and "unwanted" pregnancies were unheard of. Hidden and unheard of.
The I.U.D. had just come on the market and my doctor decided to try it out on me. What did I know? I hadn't read "Memoirs Of An Ex Prom Queen" yet. Or my mother's copy of "The Feminine Mystique".
Seven years later, my husband and I wanted more children. I couldn't get pregnant.
After a year of trying, we saw a specialist in Infertility. The news was devastating.
That I.U.D., it turned out, was a Dalkon
Shield. I researched it and discovered there were numerous class action lawsuits against the drug company that had "pushed" it.
It had ravaged the inside and outside of my uterus; there was scar tissue along my fallopian tubes that had strangled any chance we'd ever have of having another child. The inside of my tubes was a tangled mess of scar tissue, forever wiping out any promise of a sibling for our son.
We asked for help. We asked God and we asked the specialists here on earth.
I had so many tests I lost count. Then I had eight surgeries; seven microsurgeries and a laparotomy that sliced me from hip to hip. Now my scars were on the outside. To this day, I cannot wear a bathing suit because my stomache hangs over the thick scar and I cannot afford a "tummy tuck."
The surgery was a success. We had four children in three years.
I believe people should do anything and everything possible to help them fulfill dreams of parenthood. And it's probably true that they are the ones who raise the healthiest future adults because these children are wanted so badly.

[momof3_MOD]

Goodness gracious, Alana! Thats such a sad story! Im so sorry that you had to go through that! But in the end you were blessed with more children! Not being able to have children when you so badly want them is so difficult! God does answer prayers! Sometimes its not the way we want or understand but He does everything His way and in the end we have to believe its for the best! Im so happy to hear that you got the family that you so desired! God bless you and your family! Hope you had a great and safe 4th!