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Petulant Pixie · Posted: Fri Dec 03, 2004 4:36 pm Post subject: Eileen lost the baby

Eileen had an amnio done yesterday, due to her risk of having a baby with birth defects. The amnio went smoothly, but right afterwards, the baby stopped moving--she could see it on the ultrasound, and the baby's heart-rate slowed. She was sent to the neonatal specialist who did the 3D u/s and found a heart-rate that was low, but within normal paramaters, but told her to come back this morning. When she went back to the hospital this morning, there was no heartbeat in the ultrasound. The baby had died.

She is scheduled for a D&C tomorrow morning. She has asked that I post this so everyone can keep her and her family in their prayers.

DietCokeHead · Queen of Imperfection Joined: 29 Apr 2002 Posts: 3805

Oh God. If you talk to her tell her that I will be keeping her family in my prayers. Crying or Very sad

Shrimp&Grits · Posted: Fri Dec 03, 2004 5:12 pm Post subject: Eileen lost the baby

I am so very sorry. How horrible.

honeybee · Queen of Imperfection Joined: 20 Dec 2002 Posts: 3163

Eileen & family are in my prayers. Crying or Very sad

MainstreamMom · Posted: Fri Dec 03, 2004 6:33 pm Post subject: Eileen lost the baby

Oh no

I'm am so sorry! Please let Eileen know she's in my thoughts and prayers.

mommy2three · Imperfect Parent Joined: 20 Dec 2002 Posts: 1674

Ugh! so sorry to hear this.

Rebecca_R · Posted: Fri Dec 03, 2004 10:31 pm Post subject: Eileen lost the baby

What?! OMG. Crying or Very sad

Please let her know that we are thinking about her.

I wonder, was it a loss due to the amnio? That's what it sounds like but I couldn't tell if you knew for sure? How is she taking this?

Eileen, if your reading this (((HUGS)))

Jessica · Posted: Sat Dec 04, 2004 9:15 am Post subject: Eileen lost the baby

Oh, man. So, so sad. Crying or Very sad

How's she holding up? How far along was she again?

I'm so sorry. Definitely, her and her family will be in my prayers.

I am just so sorry to hear this.

Petulant Pixie · Posted: Sat Dec 04, 2004 9:18 am Post subject: Eileen lost the baby

She was 15 weeks. It's hard to tell how she's holding up right now. I talked to her again last night and she was just focusing on getting through the procedure today.

We don't know if it was caused by the amnio or if maybe the baby had some defect that made it weak and it went into distress during the amnio. I don't know if she'll have any answers anytime soon, either. Right now, she's just trying to get through today.

It is so incredibly sad. I just can't believe it.

kathyjm · Posted: Sat Dec 04, 2004 10:20 pm Post subject: Eileen lost the baby

I am so sad for Eileen right now. Sad

Eileen...if you read this, Big huge {{{HUGS}}} for you. I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I will keep your entire family and your little Christmas Angel in my prayers.

julymom · Posted: Sun Dec 05, 2004 9:18 am Post subject: Eileen lost the baby

Oh no! How terrible. Please tell her we're thinking about her.

TheBean · Posted: Sun Dec 05, 2004 9:48 am Post subject: Saturday at the Hospital

I thought you all might find a little amusement in this sad situation:

I'm very tired and crampy right now. My throat hurts from the tube they put down it today...and probably from all the snot draining out of my head. How one can produce gallons of snot from crying must be a medical mystery. I'm tired of crying.

Everyone at the hospital today was wonderful. It was very quiet - we were there at 7:00 AM and I didn't see any other patients.

I did have the priest come see me. (it is a catholic hospital - they said mass at 8:00 over the intercoms. Really wild). Anyhow - this priest comes to see me before surgery at my request. I wanted grief counseling to come because I wanted to get a card of someone to contact if I needed and I wanted to talk to someone about what to say or not say to Anna.

So anyhow- the priest comes - and he is Asian. Oh my heavens - I will probably be struck by a lightning bolt, or the next time I go to Catholic Mass have a statue fall and bonk me on the head. He told me this story about this woman who was diagnosed with a child that was majorily deformed and they prayed and she delivered a healthy child. I was laying there thinking, "you've got to be kidding me, please don't tell me this man thinks I am doing this because I think the baby is deformed." But he has a thick accent, so I am trying to concentrate on what he is saying , when I want to grab his little rosery beads and bit his little round head off. So I lay there patiently praying, "Oh God, please make him leave." Then he veers off of that story course to his point - which was regarding miracles. Now don't get me wrong - I DO firmly believe that prayers and faith can provide miracles. But I was not expecting any miracle to happen to me. I think they should best be reserved for those truly in need - like suffering an illness. Anyhow - he starts praying for a miracle (if it is the will of God). So now I'm okay with the praying. But it is going on and on....droning...and droning....kind of like anesthesia. And then ......- he starts singing.

OMG... I started LAUGHING, and biting my lip to keep from laughing out loud - and both the priest and Bob think I am crying! Because I was making these weird laughter suppression noises, and i have my eyes schrunched closed because surely, if I open then and see him singing I will totally lose it. All I could think of was the Christmas Story movie with the family at the restaurant with the Christmas duck and the Chinese servers singing Christmas carols.

Finally he stopped singing and I could compose myself. He really was a sweet man. But THAT is the image that I was left with on my way to the operating table.