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honeybee · Queen of Imperfection Joined: 20 Dec 2002 Posts: 3163

Dh and I met the new doc on Monday. We both like him a lot! Very Happy

I really feel that he and I are on the same wavelength in regards to prenatal care and my health, so that's awesome! He even said some things about the doc I ditched that completely confirmed and validated my opinions and apprehensions with her, I quote: "yes, she tends to provoke a lot of unnecessary anxiety in her patients, and us physicians too for that matter <mumble mumble>"! Laughing

He rocks.

I love that:

- he thought it was ridiculous for me to have to take the glucose test at my 7 week appointment

- he wants to do the c/s one week early, not two weeks

- he didn't blink about my skipping the triple/quad screen tests

- he didn't say, "oh you have two boys, I hope you have a girl!" Rolling Eyes

- he says that as long as this pregnancy and delivery progress as easily and well as my other two that there is no reason for this to end my childbearing. The other doc was practically twisting my arm to have a tubal after this baby. Evil or Very Mad

Another great thing -- there is a licensed drop-in daycare center right across the street, so now dh can come to my appointments with me. Smile

He was feeling pretty detached and sullen about not taking part in them before. He never missed a single appointment with the other two pregnancies and he was getting so bummed. He can be quite a baby sometimes. Wink

My "big" u/s is scheduled for Nov. 16!!! I am soooooooo excited!!!

DietCokeHead · Queen of Imperfection Joined: 29 Apr 2002 Posts: 3805

Anthromomma · Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 11:24 am Post subject:

Woo hoo! I'm glad you found a doctor that you like.
It's got to be gratifying that he felt the same way about your old doc.

Erika

becky2005 · Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 7:07 pm Post subject:

I am so glad you found a doctor you like! It's going to make the rest of your pregnancy so much better.

And, I never get the triple screen either.

I'm afraid though about the opposite reaction to my tubal wishes. I want one! I'm almost 100% decided to schedule another section this time and not try for a VBAC and if I get the section, I want a tubal too. I know don't want a large family...I've just always been a one-or-two kid kind of person. And I'm afraid that my doc will give me a hard time since it's only my second kid and I'm only 32. But then she's pretty laid back and I haven't even approached the subject with her yet. I've gotten a little heat from some family members though. Like it's their business how many children I have?

Where is nurse Becky? I miss her too.

Jessica · Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 7:44 pm Post subject:

Melissa, having an OB you like makes such a big difference. I'm so glad you found somebody that shares more of your philosophy. How did you wind up hearing about him?

I will try to summon Nurse Becky, maybe we can get her out of hiding. I hope she's okay.

honeybee · Queen of Imperfection Joined: 20 Dec 2002 Posts: 3163

yes, Annie, she did say that about having a girl. Mad

I thought it was SO rude! WTH would she "hope" I have a girl? What's it to her?? Ugh. I HATE comments like that.
Now I know it is *recommended* that women do not have more than 3 c/s, but I also know that many women DO have more than that and they are just perfectly fine. I think it is somehting that needs to be decided on a case-by-case basis, yk? I have a friend in CA who always had her heart set on 4 kids and after her 3rd (all c/s) she was told no more. Her uterus had so much scar tissue already that the doc had a hard time delivery the last baby and it was affecting her bladder somehow. She was so devastated. Crying or Very sad

ANYWAY. I've always said I wanted 3 or 4 kids and I'm really feeling that I do not want to be pg again after this. But I do not appreciate someone else taking that choice away from me when it seemed to be unwarranted. I've always felt the draw to adopt and I'm really leaning towards completeing our family that way, if we choose to have 4 children. We definitely need a bigger house for that first. Razz

The other doc had introduced the AFP to me as though it were not optional. My issue with the test is the high number of "false postitives" -- and if you get a high ratio on something you have two options: amnio or u/s. Well, I'm NOT doing an amnio, period. And I'll have an u/s regardless. dontknow

I have no risk factors -- absolutely no history on either side of our families, I've had two perfectly healthy children already, and I'm not too old. Wink

Jessica, a lady I know on another board was a L&D nurse here and was able to get recommendations from her former collegues, her sister and her sister's coworkers -- this guy came with some high accolades. Smile

Rebecca_R · Posted: Thu Oct 26, 2006 2:11 pm Post subject:

I'm sorry to have not been around guys. Jessica pm'd me which is very sweet. And I just don't really feel like posting about this but it's also unfair to leave anyone hanging and I know you all care about me. Basically there are some issues with my pregnancy that have me in complete emotional chaos right now. I don't have any answers right now I just have to to back to the perinatologist for FU next week and I'm also seeing my regular doctor tomorrow. I am a huge emotional worrier too so I'm crying a lot. That's about it right now. I have some pg friends IRL and I know there are a lot of pg people on here. It's really hard for me to read about people's wonderful pregnancies. This is a purely selfish thing on my part that I cannot control right now, so I can't bear to read. I wish you all the best with your babies and children and I hope everyone does well. This happened to me back in 02 when we lost our son and I couldn't read or post for months. I snapped out of it eventually and I hopefully will again.

Take care everyone.

DietCokeHead · Queen of Imperfection Joined: 29 Apr 2002 Posts: 3805

Becky- I will be thinking of you. I am so sorry to hear that things are not going well. If you can, let us know how you are doing when things calm down a little. Take care of yourself.

honeybee · Queen of Imperfection Joined: 20 Dec 2002 Posts: 3163

oh Becky!

I am so sorry to hear this. I think about you often and will be praying for you. Huge hugs sweetie. We are all here for you.

ExCareerGal · Posted: Thu Oct 26, 2006 5:55 pm Post subject:

Becky- how you feel is totally understandable. Good luck with everyting. You are in my thoughts.
Janna

Jessica · Posted: Thu Oct 26, 2006 7:27 pm Post subject:

Becky, it's totally understandable why you've been absent. I totally understand and don't worry about it. I am so sorry you are having to go through this again. You are in my thoughts as well.

Sewingsiren · Posted: Thu Nov 02, 2006 11:35 am Post subject:

Becky,
I hope you received good news at your FU. I know it can be terribly difficult having problems in your pregnancy when it seems everyone else gets to sail through it with none at all. I am thinking of you and try to take care.

MainstreamMom · Posted: Thu Nov 02, 2006 7:03 pm Post subject:

Oh Becky I'm just reading this now. I hope everything is ok and I'll keep you and your baby in my thoughts and prayers.

BIG HUGS! I am so sorry you are going through this now.

becky2005 · Posted: Thu Nov 02, 2006 7:37 pm Post subject:

Becky,
I am so sorry to hear about this.
Thinking of you and sending you hugs...
Please update us when you feel up to it.

Scout · Posted: Thu Nov 02, 2006 9:48 pm Post subject:

Oh Becky, I am just now reading this! I'm so sorry and I hope things have gotten better since you last posted.