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DietCokeHead · Queen of Imperfection Joined: 29 Apr 2002 Posts: 3805

I had a miscarriage. I had some bleeding and went into the hospital. The baby had no heartbeat and had stopped growing at 8 weeks which was a month ago. I had a D&C this afternoon and am home in bed (on the laptop) now.

Princesso · Posted: Sat Oct 30, 2004 8:20 pm Post subject: Bad News

I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope that your recovery is quick and that you are feeling better soon.

mommy2three · Imperfect Parent Joined: 20 Dec 2002 Posts: 1674

so sorry to hear this, hope you are feeling well quickly.

Elizabeth · Posted: Sat Oct 30, 2004 9:52 pm Post subject: Bad News

So sorry for your loss. Feel better soon.

Shrimp&Grits · Posted: Sat Oct 30, 2004 11:18 pm Post subject: Bad News

Annie I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you. Did Jack already know about the baby? If so, how is he taking it?

This might sound bizarre, but I dreamt about this last night. It was me in my dream though, but it was just as you described. There was texture in my dream (which means it's a real dream, it's happening in real life) so I thought about it all day long. I couldn't shake it all day. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

honeybee · Queen of Imperfection Joined: 20 Dec 2002 Posts: 3163

Annie, I am so very, very sorry. Sad

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sad

DietCokeHead · Queen of Imperfection Joined: 29 Apr 2002 Posts: 3805

Yes, Jack knew about the baby. Dh told him this morning that the dr told me there isnt a baby in my tummy anymore while I was at the hospital yesterday. Jack wanted to know where the baby went and Marshall said that it is living with God now. Jack wanted to make sure the baby was not going to fall out of the sky, and then moved on to requesting his movie and breakfast.

That is very strange about the dream, SG. I had a dream a few weeks ago about the water company coming and digging up our front yard and 2 days later it happened just exactly as I dreamed it. It was so wierd, I was feling very psychic afer that one.

I have had a wierd feeling about the baby for a few weeks now. I told dh but we both brushed it off as normal worry. I told everyone I could thru email last night to get it over with. I am dreading going into work though. Everyone knew about me being pregnant. I work with wonderful, caring people but I dont want to deal with a lof of kind words and hugs right now. Denial is what works for me in cases like this, although it is probably not for the best.

Jessica · Posted: Sun Oct 31, 2004 6:40 am Post subject: Bad News

Oh, Annie, I am so very sorry. Crying or Very sad

Is this the first time this has happened to you?

Are you on bedrest for trick-or-treating?

I hope you recover quickly and that you will get pregnant again when the time is right.

My deepest sympathies...

DietCokeHead · Queen of Imperfection Joined: 29 Apr 2002 Posts: 3805

Jessica,
I have not had a miscarriage before this. I'm supposed to be taking it easy, whatever that means. I think I will go to a couple of houses with the kids and then just sit on our porch and hand out candy. I am not sure if we will try again or if we will just count our blessings and not tempt fate any further, you know? dh said that seeing the new babies leave with their moms from the hospital while I was having my surgery was awful, so he might want to try again more than I do.

Petulant Pixie · Posted: Sun Oct 31, 2004 9:10 am Post subject: Bad News

Oh, Annie, I am so sorry. I would advise you to not even think about anything beyond today, or this week, you know? You have to watch those hormones, too, they'll start to kick in soon and make you feel like shit. Just really try to pamper yourself and let yourself work through your feelings.

I am so sorry.

MainstreamMom · Posted: Sun Oct 31, 2004 10:24 am Post subject: Bad News

I am so sorry for your loss Annie Sad

HUGS and take care of yourself.

Rebecca_R · Posted: Sun Oct 31, 2004 12:19 pm Post subject: Bad News

Oh Annie, major HUGS. I am so sorry this happened to you. Let us know if there is anything we can do. Crying or Very sad

kathyjm · Posted: Sun Oct 31, 2004 6:08 pm Post subject: Bad News

Annie:

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Take good care of yourself. I hope you feel better soon.

~Kathy

Scout · Posted: Mon Nov 01, 2004 10:46 am Post subject: Bad News

Oh Annie, I'm so sorry! I know what you mean about going back to face your coworkers being hard. I could hold it together until everyone started wanting to hug me and be nice to me, then I would lose it.

They really should not do D&Cs in the L&D ward. I had to have one with my first mc and dh could not believe they took us there. He was furious.

How are you feeling today?

julymom · Posted: Mon Nov 01, 2004 4:56 pm Post subject: Bad News

Annie, I'm so sorry. Try to take it easy and rest as much as possible. You might start to feel better, but your body tires very easily. I've had 4 m/c and felt okay a day or two later (physically anyway), but exhaustion set in so quickly when I tried to do even the simplest thing.
Again, I'm so sorry. ((((HUGS))))