Should we hold any compassion for Sandy Hook shooter?

Will Adam Lanza’s body ever be claimed by his father? Photo via Nicolás Báez.

In a word, no.

Rumor has it — no one has claimed the body of Adam Lanza, the fucker who shot up a first grade classroom at an elementary school in Newtown, Connecticut, killing 20 first graders (most of them only 6-years-old) and 6 school staff members (including four teachers, the school’s principal and the school psychologist).

If the rumors are true and Adam Lanza, 20-years-old, who shot and killed himself only when it was clear he was going to be captured, has not been claimed by any surviving family members, who cares? Honestly, who gives a shit if he winds up rotting there?

Personally, I really don’t care if his family doesn’t claim him but I am struck by the amount of people who thinks he deserves better than that and lambastes the man’s father for failing to give him a proper burial.


My question is why? For all of those who believe that Adam Lanza deserves our compassion and pity, because he suffered too or something, how do you know that? How do you know he was conflicted at all?

How do you know that he killed 20 babies, shooting them at close range between 2 and 11 times — that it was done in order to stifle his pain? And who cares if that was the case?

How do we know that his sole purpose wasn’t to inflict as much pain on others as humanly possible because it gave him pleasure? And even if he was in pain, so what? What does that have to do with anything? From all accounts, he lived a pretty charmed life, so sorry he had the inability to appreciate it, or he was mad at his mom or something.

Humanizing this bastard is just as much of a coping mechanism as calling him out for what he is — subhuman, evil and deranged.

No, I do not pity him. No, I do not feel sorry for him. No, I don’t care what happens to his body. No, I don’t care if his father forgoes his chance to say his final goodbye to him. Judging the man’s father and brother for the inability to pay their respect to him is just as bad, if not worse, than blaming the man’s mother for her inability to stop him.

If his father wants to have a funeral for him, so be it. I will not judge him for it, but given that he’s allegedly fled town with his new wife and his brother hasn’t spoken to him in over two years, they might be so repulsed by his actions that they can’t bring themselves to honor him in any way. And if that’s the case, then that’s their God-given right.

Just as I wrote about the Batman movie massacre shooter, I don’t think it’s noble or obligatory for the parents of such an evil fucker who has committed such unthinkable acts of violence against innocent people to be like “uh, you’re not my family anymore”. I think a parent’s love in unconditional to a point. That red-line for me would be if one of my children shot 20 6-year-olds, regardless of the reason, regardless of their psychosis. Just because someone is of your own flesh and blood, it doesn’t mean that they can expect you to continue loving them, regardless of their actions.

If Adam Lanza’s surviving family wants to forgive him, let them. But I won’t.  I don’t care if he rots in hell. He gets zero sympathy from me and I don’t care if he was struggling with a mental illness, that may be a reason, but it’s not an excuse. I don’t care why he was evil and I’m not going to pretend that a little Adam Lanza resides in all of us, because if he does, we might as well bring on the Apocalypse.