Sex
Here's a collection of all of our articles filed under sex
MominatrixGiving your partner a helping handBy Kristen Chase
Dear Mominatrix: I had a hysterectomy last month and I'm still on medical leave. At present I'm still physically "limited" in marital relations and will be for another month. Any advice? - C.
You're not the only one with...
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MominatrixAm I a horny old lady?By Kristen Chase
A few weeks ago, my husband called me "a horny old lady."
I don't think he meant it to be a compliment, but I took it as one.
An ad for some Ryan Reynolds movie was flashing across our television set, and as I scrambled to find...
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MominatrixHow not to get pregnant.By Kristen Chase
If you’re just trying to catch your breath before getting knocked up again or are still deciding whether you’ll be adding more to your brood, you should probably consider using more than the pull-out method for birth control. And for the...
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When Mom's the DadThe peculiar positioning of gay familiesBy Mandy Hartley
My son is obsessed with the mailbox. Everything about it from the dandy red flag that moves up and down, to the satisfying thump of the door as it opens and closes... and opens and closes and opens and closes (he's a toddler) pleases him. Each...
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MominatrixValentine's Day, Mominatrix StyleBy Kristen Chase
I have to admit that I dread Valentine’s Day every single year. Maybe I sound terribly unromantic to complain about a meaningful box of chocolates and a dozen insanely overpriced roses that don’t make it past the end of the week, by which...
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MominatrixLast minute sexy gifts for hot couples.By Kristen Chase
He doesn't need another watch. She doesn't need another sweater. Treat yourselves to special holiday gifts that you can both enjoy together, over and over again.
We-Vibe 3
Come together....
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MominatrixMy partner won't have sex with me, what am I doing wrong?By Kristen Chase
Sometimes all a sex life needs is a couple of sex toys and a well-timed reach around. Add in a little extra lube, a sex pillow, and some erotic romance novels and you might just be good as new. Or even better than you were before.
But in some...
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MominatrixMominatrix's Complete Guide to Mustache RidesBy Kristen Chase
During the month of November each year, thousands of men across the United States and the world shave their faces clean and then grow all sorts of facial hair styles as part of "Movember" to help raise funds and awareness for men's health...
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MominatrixMominatrix goes on a boudoir photo shoot.By Kristen Chase
A few years ago as part of my Father's Day Guide, I recommended boudoir photos as a gift for the dad in your life. Or at least, the one you have sex with. But trying to find a photographer that specialized in these types of photos that wasn't...
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MominatrixMominatrix answers a reader's question about his wife's fantasies.By Kristen Chase
Dear Mominatrix:
My wife and I went from an open marriage to almost divorced, but thankfully we managed to repair the damage and get our marriage back on track. No surprise that this set our sex life back a bit, but now she's starting to open...
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MominatrixMominatrix gives the deets on her latest waxing encounter.By Kristen Chase
With my friendly neighborhood esthetician no longer in the area, it's been nearly a year since my last waxing encounter. Finding time to shave my legs let alone get a bikini wax is tough when you're a busy mom, in my case with four kids and...
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MominatrixHow do you tell your husband he's lousy in bed?By Kristen Chase
Dear Mominatrix: I love my husband -- he's an amazing father and treats me like a queen, but he's not that skilled in the bedroom. Help! - S.
Well S., two out of three isn't that bad, but it's a fair complaint, and one that many...
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MominatrixCan guys take manscaping too far?By Kristen Chase
A few years ago, women were begging their men to tame their savage beast. Just because you're an animal in the bedroom doesn't mean you need to look like one. Hair doesn't necessarily belong everywhere, unless you're a gorilla. Evolution...
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MominatrixMominatrix Sex Toy Smackdown: Travel VibratorsBy Kristen Chase
With summer travel in full swing and moms already packing their fair share of battery operated toys for those long hellish family trips called “vacation,” the last thing they’ve got room for is their own collection. And with...
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MominatrixAre anti-depressants zapping your sex drive?By Kristen Chase
At least once or twice a month, a mom finds her way to the Mominatrix in a search for her libido. Sometimes it's the desperate dads who end up here, hoping to find a fix to the lack of sexual desire that so many post partum moms, whether they're...
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MominatrixFive ways to spruce up your vag for springBy Kristen ChaseWith the season's change, you'll find no shortage of helpful spring cleaning how-tos. Declutter your closet! Scrub your shower! Mop your floor so your husband can eat you off of it! Cleanliness is next to godliness, you know, and with all the...
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MominatrixGive your vagina some damn respect.By Kristen ChaseSince having child #2, sex has been rather uncomfortable. The weird part is that #2 was a failed VBAC, so in theory, everything ought to be hunky dory down there. I labored with both kids, but since I didn't reach a pushing stage. Nevertheless, my perineum...
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MominatrixMake sex a priority.By Kristen ChaseYou'll find no shortage of parents asking the Mominatrix the same damn question "How do I spice things up in the bedroom?"
Short answer: Buy The Mominatrix's Guide to Sex and leave it on your nightstand.
But honestly, in some...
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MominatrixHow do I help my wife with her low sex drive?By Kristen ChaseDear Mominatrix:
My wife is a beautiful mother of 2 who says she has no sex drive- zero. What can I do to help? I tell her how beautiful she is? I tell her she's the only woman I fantasize about. I listen to her/ we're great friends -- I just want...
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MominatrixItty Bitty vs. Teeny WeenyBy Kristen ChaseFor years, women have complained about being superficially judged by men based on their breast size. Down with the sexist, chauvinist who declares his disinterest in itty-bitty titties.
Cue bra burning, hair pulling, and huge bills at plastic...
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MominatrixMental Orgasms for MomsBy Kristen ChaseIn a recent interview, inimitable Lady Gaga was quoted as saying she can give herself an orgasm without anything but her mind. "I love sex. You know, sense memory is a powerful thing. I can give myself an orgasm just by thinking about it." The...
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MominatrixWhy the world needs MominatrixBy Kristen ChaseThe irony of writing a sex column and sex book for parents is that there's a good chance it won't reach the moms who really need to read it. That's because according to a recent Harvard research study, of the 40% of women who identify having sex problems,...
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MominatrixThe Mominatrix reviews the OhMiBod FreestyleBy Kristen ChaseSex and music are intimately bound so it's no surprise that someone decided to connect them almost literally in what could be deemed "The Music Lover's Sex Toys" or as they're known in the sex business, OhMiBod. These super smart toys allow...
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Mominatrix2010: A Sexual ResolutionBy Kristen ChaseUPDATE: The sexual resolution has begun -- see the list below or follow the Mominatrix along over at our blog.
Before you write one more well-meaning resolution that requires hours on the treadmill, an expensive gym membership, and squeezing your ass...
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Mominatrix2010: A Sexual ResolutionBy Kristen ChaseUPDATE: The sexual resolution has begun -- see the list below or follow the Mominatrix along over at our blog.
Before you write one more well-meaning resolution that requires hours on the treadmill, an expensive gym membership, and squeezing your ass...
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MominatrixThe Mominatrix's Quick Guide to Real Porn for ParentsBy Kristen ChaseOver the years, pornography has gotten a pretty bad rap from women, and for obvious reasons. For the most part, it's aimed at the male audience which tends to display women in a submissive and objectified position.
But as women's appetite for porn has...
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MominatrixMominatrix goes on the pole.By Kristen ChaseThe art of striptease and pole dancing as an alternative exercise form is certainly not a new idea. After all, sex is considered exercise, and what better way to burn calories and hone your skills in the bedroom with a combination of both. And with popular...
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MominatrixHow to have a sexy ThanksgivingBy Kristen ChaseSo you might have thought that Thanksgiving is not the sexiest of holidays, and you're probably right. Between family hovering over you, huge amounts of food rolling around in your belly, and the day long football fest, the last thing on your mind is...
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MominatrixMominatrix visits the Liberator factory store.By Kristen ChaseThanks to the invention of Internet, it's probably been a pretty long time since you've set foot in a sex store. And in most cases, especially if you're a parent, that's probably a good thing. It's hard enough trying to find enough time to get your hair...
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MominatrixBringing sexy pregnancy back.By Kristen ChaseWhile sexualizing moms into MILFs has definitely become a questionable trend, the idea of turning a pregnant woman into a seductive stripper has presumably yet to be introduced outside of the members-only sex sites.
Until now.
Yesterday afternoon...
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MominatrixCan men and women be 'just friends'?By Kristen ChaseEven before Harry and Sally discussed it on their long lonely car ride east, the age old question as to whether men and women can be "just friends" stumped even the most brilliant scholars.
Some say "yes" while others say "absolutely...
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MominatrixUsing frank language with your kids.By Kristen ChaseSexually related words have always been the bastard children of the English language. Granted, most of them are kept a secret for good reason. But even the less controversial terms still seem to get a bad rap.
Utter the words “vagina”...
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MominatrixThe little blue pill -- does it do anything?By Kristen ChaseIf you’re wondering why your husband suddenly has the sexual stamina of a porn star, you might suspect that he’s doing some sort of masturbation interval training to help improve his overall endurance.
But then again, he’s probably...
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MominatrixYou'd be surprised what moms are fantasizing about.By Kristen ChaseIf you peeked into the sexual minds of moms these days, you’d be surprised to see what they’ve been fantasizing about. Well, other than a month’s worth of free house cleaning and one full night of uninterrupted sleep of course.
The...
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MominatrixHeal the World Through Sex ToysBy Kristen ChaseWith the economy bottoming out and parents stashing their pennies under the mattress, the idea of spending money on sex toys is probably not an option. If you’re struggling to pay your mortgage and can barely afford to feed your family, a whopping...
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The Parental is PoliticalDid Gov. Rendell Insult Gov. Napolitano?By Julie MarshWhen I was in the Air Force, I lived alone. I had a one bedroom apartment in a building that was about a football field's length away from the Pentagon South Parking lot. I also held demanding positions that required long hours. And I spent two nights...
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Not Your Average Fairy TaleThe BackpackBy Melissa DoakThe note was in a pile of crud I had fished out of bottom of her backpack in an attempt to cram two three-ring binders, ten two-pocket folders, a pencil case, a novel, a lunchbox, and a partridge and a pear tree into it. So far I had found two reading...
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MominatrixDaddy, what are you doing to Mommy?By Kristen ChaseAll’s fair with love and sex until that wee one you produced after long months of robotic sex or that one drunken unmemorable screw is old enough to walk in on you doing the dirty deed.
Here’s hoping you’ve been putting aside money...
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MominatrixDaddy, what are you doing to Mommy?By Kristen ChaseAll’s fair with love and sex until that wee one you produced after long months of robotic sex or that one drunken unmemorable screw is old enough to walk in on you doing the dirty deed.
Here’s hoping you’ve been putting aside money...
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MominatrixGetting lucky.By Kristen ChaseIt’s no secret that today, 08/08/08, is considered the luckiest day this year – thousands of superstitious couples are scheduled to get hitched and hordes of preggos are being offered huge prizes just to pop one out. Lottery lines are already...
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MominatrixMominatrix Salutes the Good Ol' USABy Kristen ChaseThe 4th of July rings of beaches, barbecues, and beer, all in the name of good old American patriotism, of course. But instead of watching daddy lose a finger with a bunch of illegally purchased fireworks, why not set some of your own off in the bedroom...
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MominatrixMominatrix Salutes the Good Ol' USABy Kristen ChaseThe 4th of July rings of beaches, barbecues, and beer, all in the name of good old American patriotism, of course. But instead of watching daddy lose a finger with a bunch of illegally purchased fireworks, why not set some of your own off in the bedroom...
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Not Your Average Fairy TaleSaving Face: What to do when your girlfriend could care less about CaliforniaBy Melissa DoakI clicked on the BBC news. Hordes of couples were celebrating on the steps of San Francisco City Hall. I whooped.
“Look, Saads!” I pointed to the T.V. “California ruled lesbian and gay people can get married. Everyone’s lining...
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MominatrixDealing with a globetrotting spouse.By Kristen ChaseWith my own spouse gone most of the week and millions of other women playing single parent in one capacity or another thanks to military deployments and numerous companies requiring business travel, I’m betting that sex toy sales must be sky rocketing....
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MominatrixDealing with a globetrotting spouse.By Kristen ChaseWith my own spouse gone most of the week and millions of other women playing single parent in one capacity or another thanks to military deployments and numerous companies requiring business travel, I’m betting that sex toy sales must be sky rocketing....
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MominatrixMommy MammariesBy Kristen ChaseAfter two pregnancies and a combined three years of breastfeeding, my boobs have definitely seen better days. Granted I’m not yet picking them up off the ground and tucking them into my elastic waist band pants, but a bra is definitely required...
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Not Your Average Fairy TaleA Boy-Girl Thing?By Melissa DoakThe gang of kids came wandering up as I was attempting to cut the weeds out of the ditch so my neighbor’s yard wouldn’t flood the next time it so much as sprinkled. I tried to look like I could actually hold the weed-whacker up for more than...
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MominatrixKickin' It Old School.By Kristen ChaseFor many expectant mothers, the 2nd trimester does indeed bring with it a joyous and blissful renewal of body and spirit. Clearly it’s still not all puppy dogs and rose petals. But if you’ve been puking your guts out, or like me, suffering...
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MominatrixSex for One, AgainBy Kristen ChaseI can’t count how many times I’ve picked up a self-help-your-sex-life book and read that getting away without your kids more often than not is the key to a fulfilled love life. Really? You mean one whole night where my where my spouse and...
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MominatrixPleasure is just around the corner.By Kristen ChaseContrary to popular belief, it’s not just porn stars, ass men, and that ambiguously gay college boyfriend of yours who just so happened to own every single Cher album that like the butt play.
Regular old moms like the butt action too.
Granted,...
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MominatrixTouch Me, BabyBy Kristen ChaseWhen you’ve been stuck for however many hours a day being bugged, badgered, and bothered by little hands grabbing at you from every direction, chances are the last thing that you want is to be groped by your well-meaning spouse. I’m not quite...
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Not Your Average Fairy TaleThe Accidental AdoptionBy Melissa DoakOkay, you’re probably thinking there’s no such thing as an accidental adoption.
After all, in order to adopt you must do a variety of things that you can hardly do without meaning to. Things like showing caseworkers your home. Leaving...
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MominatrixSweet, Sweet Fantasy, BabyBy Kristen ChaseIf you ask any mother about her sexual fantasies, chances are they’d probably have more to do with sleep than any specific sexual act.
Is my husband masturbating in the shower while I sleep soundly for the entire night still considered a sexual...
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MominatrixSweet, Sweet Fantasy, BabyBy Kristen ChaseIf you ask any mother about her sexual fantasies, chances are they’d probably have more to do with sleep than any specific sexual act.
Is my husband masturbating in the shower while I sleep soundly for the entire night still considered a sexual...
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MominatrixIt's the Final Countdown.By Kristen ChaseI’m not sure I remember exactly when my husband and I had the dreaded sexual history conversation. It’s not like one of us kept count of our past conquests in some spiral bound Garfield notebook or anything.
Who does that?
And while...
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Not Your Average Fairy TaleSex Education. Lesbian Style.By Melissa DoakI was only five years old when my brother was born. It was my mother’s growing belly that prompted my questions about where babies come from. My mother gave me both more information than I needed, as a kindergartner, and less. Really, I think some...
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MominatrixBlow Off Your DutyBy Kristen ChaseI recently likened giving fellatio to making brown-bag lunches for your spouse. It starts out as this beautiful gesture that you offer to him, and then becomes an obligation. And when it’s expected, it’s not so beautiful anymore but instead...
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MominatrixJingle BallsBy Kristen ChaseThe balls, testicles, gonads, or whatever you’ve christened them are probably one of the more mysterious aspects of sexual play. Most of us have spent our time trying to figure out the long and short of the penis thus leaving the testicles out of...
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MominatrixSex for One.By Kristen ChaseAs a person who’s been in and out of relationships like a revolving door, I admit to not being much of a masturbator. Call me lazy or just plain crazy, but I have to say that sometimes it’s way easier to just have someone else do it for you...
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MominatrixMoms and Dads can play dress up, too.By Kristen ChaseUnless you met your spouse at a Trekkie convention, chances are that trying to get you to dress up as something other than a tired overworked mother might be pretty tough. That doesn’t mean I’m not in support of role-playing and fantasy in...
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Not Your Average Fairy TaleThe Ghosts of Halloweens PastBy Melissa DoakTake One: Saadia in kindergarten. Only a few short and stormy months since she came to me. I was hanging on by a thread. My once-promising relationship with my fairly new girlfriend was on rocks… apparently it really killed the romance for her...
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MominatrixPorno for Parents.By Kristen ChaseAside from the recommended date nights that married parents are sick of hearing about, sex therapists seem to be jumping on the porn wagon.
When in doubt, go watch porn.
I don’t really have a problem with porn for the most part, and it can certainly...
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Not Your Average Fairy TaleA Coming Out StoryBy Melissa Doak“You know what Miss Feldman told us today,” said a conspiratorial voice from the back seat. “She’s gay... EWWWW!!!”
At the outset I have to say I have changed the names here to protect the guilty. The girl who made this...
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MominatrixLittle Squirts -- I'm not talking about your kids.By Kristen ChaseI’m all for equal rights, particularly when it comes to the bedroom, but I must say I’m perfectly fine with my fairly uneventful orgasm. And by uneventful I’m not referring to boring or even quiet. I’m talking about clean.
For...
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MominatrixThe Cone: Not Just for Soft Serve AnymoreBy Kristen ChaseI’d like to think that parents don’t need kid-friendly sex toys. Just because I’m a mom doesn’t mean I need a dildo that moonlights as a teether. And while the idea of a vibrator that has a lullaby setting doesn’t sound like...
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MominatrixThe Cone: Not Just for Soft Serve AnymoreBy Kristen ChaseI’d like to think that parents don’t need kid-friendly sex toys. Just because I’m a mom doesn’t mean I need a dildo that moonlights as a teether. And while the idea of a vibrator that has a lullaby setting doesn’t sound like...
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Mama and More MamaThe only thing that matters is love and respect.By Gabriel ConstansOn a network show about gay parenting and during her fight in Florida over gay adoption, former talk show host, comedian and actress Rosie O’Donnell talked about her and her partner raising their adopted children. When she was asked how the youngest...
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MominatrixLove in an Elevator? Try Skipping the Bed for OnceBy Kristen ChaseAs a college student, the bed was the last place I thought about using for sexual purposes. It cradled my body after a few drunken escapades, but as far as the horizontal mambo, the bed equated old married people with kids. So I saw my fair share of interesting...
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The Warp Speed Of SexualitySometimes living in the age of sexuality is tiring.By Lauri KubuitsileSometimes living in the age of sexuality is tiring. Don’t get me wrong; I like sex despite the rumors that my husband may be spreading. There’s just so much of it around. We are swimming in it. And frankly, some of us are drowning. The ubiquitousness...
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The Warp Speed Of SexualitySometimes living in the age of sexuality is tiring.By Lauri KubuitsileSometimes living in the age of sexuality is tiring. Don’t get me wrong; I like sex despite the rumors that my husband may be spreading. There’s just so much of it around. We are swimming in it. And frankly, some of us are drowning. The ubiquitousness...
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The Warp Speed Of SexualitySometimes living in the age of sexuality is tiring.By Lauri KubuitsileSometimes living in the age of sexuality is tiring. Don’t get me wrong; I like sex despite the rumors that my husband may be spreading. There’s just so much of it around. We are swimming in it. And frankly, some of us are drowning. The ubiquitousness...
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MominatrixWhat lies beneath.By Kristen ChaseI’ve often wondered what goes on behind the bedroom doors in suburban America. Is the frustrated mom of two who drags her son out of the mall by his backpack a swinger by night? Does the clean cut mother of four who plants her flowers in obsessive...
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MominatrixWhat lies beneath.By Kristen ChaseI’ve often wondered what goes on behind the bedroom doors in suburban America. Is the frustrated mom of two who drags her son out of the mall by his backpack a swinger by night? Does the clean cut mother of four who plants her flowers in obsessive...
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Mother MagnetismMakeup and Sex -- Whatever Makes You BlushBy Kelly ReisingI have to say, my column this week is inspired by my friend Kristen of Mominatrix fame. This idea came to me while I was doing her radio show in Chicago at Blogher 07. We attempted to relate sex to beauty products, and all we came up with was a skincare...
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MominatrixWhat happened to my husband's sex drive?By Kristen ChaseThanks to the hordes of whiny housewives who can’t stop bitching about how they have to fend off their husbands’ nightly sexual advances, the few women with spouses who’d rather sleep it off than beat it off are left wondering what the...
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MominatrixWhat happened to my husband's sex drive?By Kristen ChaseThanks to the hordes of whiny housewives who can’t stop bitching about how they have to fend off their husbands’ nightly sexual advances, the few women with spouses who’d rather sleep it off than beat it off are left wondering what the...
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MominatrixThis dose of advice is to be taken orally.By Kristen ChaseAh, the blow job – it’s a housewife’s bargaining chip, a gay man’s mainstay, or a college student’s virginity saver. Call it what you want, but the blow job has served its purpose in society since before a penis was called...
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MominatrixThis dose of advice is to be taken orally.By Kristen ChaseAh, the blow job – it’s a housewife’s bargaining chip, a gay man’s mainstay, or a college student’s virginity saver. Call it what you want, but the blow job has served its purpose in society since before a penis was called...
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MominatrixSex after childbirth.By Kristen ChaseAs if squeezing out a kid from our nether regions isn’t penance enough, we must suffer through our first few months as a mother with leaky boobs, a sore butthole, and the worst symptom of all, low sex drive. Our little eight pound load is finally...
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MominatrixGood girls have pubes.By Kristen ChaseI remember the days when I could spend as long as I needed to create the perfect pubic coif. Nothing fancy, mind you, just fairly tamed and perfectly contained within the confines of the underpants.
But now I have kids and I barely have time to wash...
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MominatrixGood girls have pubes.By Kristen ChaseI remember the days when I could spend as long as I needed to create the perfect pubic coif. Nothing fancy, mind you, just fairly tamed and perfectly contained within the confines of the underpants.
But now I have kids and I barely have time to wash...
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MominatrixSex and the single mom.By Kristen ChaseEven though we’ve got at least one person (baby, teenager, hell, even our husbands) attached to our hip, most moms would say that motherhood can be a very lonely existence. But when it comes down to it, most of us have a shoulder to cry on and someone...
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MominatrixTalk dirty to me.By Kristen ChaseIf the post-partum sex is still actually occurring in your household and is not a figment of your imagination or hasn't manifested into the form of an online porn addiction, then either you must have an incredibly sound sleeping child or you’re...
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MominatrixThe Taboo of SexBy Kristen ChaseIf you’ve got at least one little mini-me running around after you, it’s fairly obvious that you’re getting some. I liken it to wearing your heart on your sleeve; a pregnant belly practically screams sex. Everybody knows you’re...
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MominatrixPlaying for the other team.By Kristen ChaseI’m not quite sure why some men are surprised when after years of quick bangs, skid marks, and foreplay that involves bra snapping and ass scratching, women decide that what they really need is the comfort of another woman’s bosom.
Going...
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MominatrixMominatrix comes in a plain brown wrapper.By Kristen ChaseI've read the complaints about the internet when it comes to opening up the sex world like a Pandora's box and truly, there's something to be said about the local porn addict having 24-hour access to way more than your typical old hard core group band...
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MominatrixVortex Vibrations sucks -- in a good way.By Kristen ChaseWhile I’d like to think there’s always room for sex toy talk over cheez-its and wine at your weekly playdate, chances are you never get past the boring weekly round up of bad poop explosions and breastfeeding blunders.
Shopping for sexual...
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MominatrixVortex Vibrations sucks -- in a good way.By Kristen ChaseWhile I’d like to think there’s always room for sex toy talk over cheez-its and wine at your weekly playdate, chances are you never get past the boring weekly round up of bad poop explosions and breastfeeding blunders.
Shopping for sexual...
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MominatrixA Woody With a Hoody Feels Very GoodyBy Kristen ChaseUnless you studied a year abroad in Greece or are married to an old country Italian stallion, chances are you haven’t had the pleasure of a woody with a hoody. Other than a random meet and greet or a quick flip through a Robert Mapplethorpe book,...
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