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By Dana Tuszke

Two years? Try four years. My son (4 1/2) is now literally begging us for siblings. Specifically a sister and a brother, in that order. He even saves toys to open "when his sister arrives." Gawd! My issue is that pregnancy was so very hard on me physically and having to come back at 6 weeks was also difficult. Until I'm physically and emotionally ready, even though I feel bad for my son, I just won't get pregnant again. It sucks. :(

Good luck with your conception!! Hope it happens soon and that your new employer is much more receptive. :)

Posted by: PT-LawMom | Nov 15, 2007 15:32

PT-LawMom, I understand how you feel. If I were to conceive tomorrow, there would be a little under four years between children. And while my own mother scoffs at that age gap, I think it's kind of perfect. I can hope my son would be potty-trained by then. Considering his reluctance these days, it's not looking good!

Thanks for the good luck wishes!

Posted by: Dana | Nov 15, 2007 15:40

Oh, Dana [heavy sigh] I can almost hear mothers across the internets breathing a collective, "Sing it, sistah!"

Breeders, non-breeders, one-armed, three-eyed, purple people eaters...whatever...at the end of the day...I just wish that we could learn to give each other the breathing space we ALL deserve!

Of course, you guys will be needing a LOT more.

Sending all good breeding vibes your way - good luck ;o)

Posted by: Liz | Nov 15, 2007 16:36

If it gives you any hope, my son wasn't trained at 3 and then by 3 1/4 he just was. No big effort on our part, he just decided he was ready.

Posted by: PT-LawMom | Nov 15, 2007 16:39

Liz, I hear you! I'm tellin' ya....breathing room would be superb.

PT-LawMom...thanks for the good advice. I've been miserable, thinking my son will never go on the potty!

Posted by: Dana | Nov 15, 2007 17:02

I personally don't believe in a "higher power" myself, but I would urge you to consider the possibility of Secondary Infertility if you haven't conceived after 6 months.

People always seem to think they know what's best for you. It's like they're saying they can make your family better than you can. What's wrong with one child if that's what you want? What's wrong with your children being 7 years apart in age? What works for one mother may be completely horrible for you. People in your life need to realize that.

They also need to mind their own f**king business. It's almost as offensive as asking the sexual positions used to conceive your child. "Will you be adding anymore children to your family?" "Will you be using the missionary or female-superior positions?" "How's your cervical mucus looking these days?"

People are so insecure in their own lives that they are worried you will judge them by not taking their advice. You space your children farther apart than they did? They see it as a judgment on their decision. They need to leave you alone and see a shrink.

Posted by: Michelle | Dec 07, 2007 12:20

Thanks for the great advice Michelle! I'm going to have to grow some balls and tell them all to kiss my hinder! :)

Posted by: Dana | Dec 07, 2007 19:10

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