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Co-Sleep or No Sleep

Why I chose to share my bed.

By Candace Juman Martin

I'm sure you were just trying to be glib, but even so, I have to object to your comparison of a bottle of formula to a "big fat milkshake"...

Posted by: Lisa U. | May 26, 2006 18:30

Good for you! Everyone has their own way of making things work in their family. I for one rocked my child every night to sleep, and no - I didn't put her down half awake so she could fall asleep on her own - I rocked her until she was cozy and fast asleep. I selfishly loved it and got my sleep that I desperately needed and she is now in a big girl bed and goes to sleep on her own. I told this to other moms/grandparents and they all said - "oh" - you know that "oh" that is so filled with judgement. Now, I say - see - it worked for us and it worked out. Great article Candace - keep up the honest and intelligent writing. Oh and to the former comment posted about the fat milk shake - first of all - who are you Tom Cruise??? "Glib" is such an obnoxious word and second - have you ever heard of dramatic effect? Bottle of formula/big fat milkshake = comparison for dramatic effect....

Posted by: Vicky | May 31, 2006 13:14

I just love the way you write, Candace. So honest and funny and accessible. Thank you for being so candid. I think that you will help many mothers to feel ok about however they choose to raise their child.

Posted by: lisa | Jun 01, 2006 16:17

Bravo Candace, bravo!

Posted by: Lu Ann | Jun 14, 2006 01:53

As a former breastfeeding co-sleeper, I hear you - it's all about the laziness! I would wake up and my son would be nursing already.... that makes 3 a.m. feedings a lot easier, when you can do it without waking up. :) Kudos to you for feeling good about your choices, the whole parenting thing is tough enough without people constantly judging you and you feeling guilty about every choice you make. I always feel like, as long as I love him, he's eaten something, and he's smiled today, I've done good.

Posted by: Melanie | Sep 15, 2006 20:31

Great article Candace--and good for you. You're a smart, independent woman and handle things in a great way--keep it up!!

Posted by: Marion Verdiramo | Jun 22, 2007 20:26

I, too, couldn't get any sleep unless my son were "hooked up" to me - co-sleeping was the ONLY way I could get any shut-eye.

As to "big fat milkshake," Lisa, let's substitute "big fat bottle of chemicals that is only fourth in line for best ways to feed a baby according to the American Association of Pediatricians." (Behind nursing, pumping and bottlefeeding the pumped milk, and human milk from another lactating woman.) Sometimes, it's ok to feed baby a bit of chemical junkfood ("formula") if it gets you through the night. Whenever else possible, nurse in the same bed so everyone can get some sleep. Works for lots of us. (Or, going back 20 years for me.) Candace seems to have her head on straight.

Posted by: AnaBanana | Feb 14, 2008 06:25

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